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Alcohol Sucks!


Many people enjoy the uninhibited and relaxing sensitivities associated with having a beer or a glass of wine – or perhaps many of drinks.

Unfortunately, the data suggests that males tend to over-consume and become addicted to mind-altering substances at a higher rate than females do.

Although it is somewhat understandable given what many of them have to deal with on a regular basis in their daily lives, as with hiding and lying, escaping from reality is not really a viable solution.

A glass of wine or beer after a stressful day can help you shift out of work mode, relax and recharge.

Alcohol’s sedating, muscle relaxing effects calm frazzled nerves and its pleasant, mood elevating benefits provide a welcome temporary respite from negative or critical thoughts.

There is also a good amount of science that supports light to moderate alcohol consumption as being protective for your brain, decreasing your risk of depression, stroke, Alzheimer’s disease and dementia.

But, alcohol can be a central nervous system depressant that leads to clinical depression.

One thing we know with certainty is that the two conditions often occur concurrently.

An ongoing large-scale study begun in 2001 known as the National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions (NESARC) determined that people with history of alcohol use disorder, including those in recovery, are 3.7 times more likely to experience a major depressive disorder than those without.

Not only do they often occur together, but depression and alcohol use seem to bring out the worst in each other, each condition becoming heightened in the presence of the other.

Sadly, in the end, alcohol intake often grows into a physical addiction where the body needs alcohol every day to feel normal as many persons often experience depression due to the chemical; imbalance.

Below are a few signs that suggest a problem is brewing:

  • You have passed out on one occasion or another after drinking.
  • You find that a drunken state creeps up on you unexpectedly.
  • You say and do foolish things that are not funny to others.
  • Your ability to walk and function normally is noticeably impaired after drinking.
  • You become angry or critical toward friends and family, often with little or no provocation.
  • Those who are closest to you point out unwelcome changes in your attitude and demeanor.
  • You frequently swallow aspirins, pain pills or mood-altering medications with or after drinking so you can work or sleep better.
  • You need a drink in order to feel well or happy.
  • You have trouble concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions.
  • You’re fatigued.
  • You have feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and helplessness.
  • You are pessimistic and hopeless at times.
  • You experience insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or sleeping too much.
  • You can’t wait to have that first drink of the day to help you relax and unwind.

It is time to consider lifestyle changes.

Alcohol consumption can be replaced with healthy coping techniques such as a brisk walk in the woods or a heart-to-heart with a close friend.

Exercise is always a healthier way to relieve stress.

If you find that you are in a troubling situation with regard to alcohol, weed, pills or any other mind-altering substances, the good news is that there are strategies you can use that can help you turn the tide on your own.

Sometimes, of course, people can’t do it by themselves. Indeed, contrary to what many are led to believe, men should never fear asking for help.

This means reaching out and getting assistance from friends and family, health professionals or those who have aided other addicts in their efforts to get clean.

In many cases, they can help you to understand who you are and what you need, then walk you through the darkest places in your mind to find the shining light.

With several tools at your disposal, you only need to make the right choice – one that means you can live a more genuine and satisfying life.


About the Author

Tim Patten is the author of popular books and articles on male empowerment. The article above is excerpted from his groundbreaking self-help book, Masculinity Is Our Future, which is not about male superiority or authority, but about achieving growth, taking responsibility, and gaining respect for yourself and others.

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12 Rules for Life

Welcome to the MOLON LABE Male Defender podcast! This week we’re covering the Number 1 best selling book in the nation, Dr. Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. He’s going on tour soon if you want to see the great man.

Here’s Amazon summary for 12 Rules for Life:

What does everyone in the modern world need to know? Renowned psychologist Jordan B. Peterson’s answer to this most difficult of questions uniquely combines the hard-won truths of ancient tradition with the stunning revelations of cutting-edge scientific research.

Humorous, surprising and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street.

What does the nervous system of the lowly lobster have to tell us about standing up straight (with our shoulders back) and about success in life? Why did ancient Egyptians worship the capacity to pay careful attention as the highest of gods? What dreadful paths do people tread when they become resentful, arrogant and vengeful?

Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith and human nature, while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its readers.

Here’s my summary:

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TOXIC Fatherless Homes


The young men who act-out violent romps and killing rampages are trying to tell us, however inadequately, that they can’t navigate through life’s stresses.

Yet rather than being punished or outcast, they may just be in need of a close mentor, such as an older brother or father figure, who can help navigate a given dilemma.

We are in the midst of an epidemic, not of toxic masculinity as feminist’s camouflage their mistake of glorifying single moms; instead, we are burdened with massive numbers of school boys and young men who are being raised in fatherless homes.

Without a father, boys can easily veer in criminal directions and unfortunately, the lack of a functional support system only serves to make many young men feel even more isolated and unsettled than they already are, which only exacerbates small hassles that can fester into something much worse.

These young males are being ignored and allowed to fall through the cracks, leading them into the dark abyss of reckless behavior.

Let’s turn the world upside down and give our boys and young men a chance to soar by mentoring their unique paths. It is not easy for boys in today’s world.

Society must now provide coaches or mentors can help them cope and thrive in this tough environment. Weekly visits to discuss relationships, school or work has proven to be successful in deterring behavioral problems before they worsen.

Of course, it is essential that we have genuine specialists, similar to those who work with men’s health organizations. They should be trained to address the unique needs of boys and young men and provide them with guidance that is informed both by competent training and real-life experiences that can be shared.

These weekly sessions would be akin to working with personal exercise trainers, who might track fitness goals, strengths and weaknesses to help clients make the most of their body’s potential.

In the same way that trainers can nurture physical growth, mentors can help nurture emotional growth. Young males generally benefit from approaches that go beyond just a standard face-to-face sit-down counseling model.

An innovative, activity-based program could produce even better results. Such a program should be designed and implemented to build trust, communication, decision-making capabilities, self-worth and confidence.

These sessions should be supplemented with initiatives that promote physical activity and teamwork, such as the Mankind Project and the Ropes Course Experience.

The Men’s Shed Movement might be another example for this kind of integrative program.

Regardless of what approach is used, the goal must be to ensure that our boys and young men are educated, empowered, and allowed to fly with the eagles. We want them to be able to make choices that ensure they, and society as a whole, come out ahead in the end.

Tim Patten is the author of popular books and articles on male empowerment. The article above is excerpted from his groundbreaking self-help book, Masculinity is Our Future, which is not about male superiority or authority, but about achieving growth, taking responsibility, and gaining respect for yourself and others.

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