Welcome to the MOLON LABE Male Defender podcast. Today, we’ll be focusing on a new book called Man Out.
Specifically, it’s Andrew Yarrow’s Man Out: Men on the Sidelines of American Life. It’s not selling well which is no surprise because the author is a leftist and no leftist will buy anything that is sympathetic towards men. Men are a class enemy to cultural Marxists.
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I don’t recommend that you buy this book. Man Out’s author refuses to consider cultural Marxism and the way in which men must be pummeled in the name of bureaucractic control and socialism.
Within the varied groups and individuals that make up the manosphere there has been a growing divide over MGTOW or ‘Men Going Their Own Way’.
This is due to MGTOW’s rejection of
the traditional expectation of men to be the protector and provider of women
and children and instead focus on their own needs. MGTOW is viewed by its
supporters as the only sensible option in an increasingly misandric society that
favours women over men in almost every situation.
MGTOW argue by doing this they
avoid being exploited by institutions such as the legal system that have adopted
a feminist viewpoint.
Critics deceptively paint MGTOW as
simply the opposite of feminism which will only result in more alienation
between men and women and lead to societal collapse.
Some commentators have also accused
MGTOW of been like a cult that attacks anybody that criticises it while men who
identify as a MGTOW believe they are individuals making individual choices.
One solution to this conflict is to
reassess the expectations that are placed on men by societies and how they have
developed over time. Men’s traditional role as a provider is important to
consider when thinking about this.
For most of human history resources
were scarce, work was very physical and death from starvation or disease was
always possible.
Being able to find or generate
resources would have increased the chances of surviving in this environment and
men would have been better equipped to do so than women due to their superior
physical strength and not having to worry about getting pregnant or miscarrying.
Women, however, had an advantage in
being able to carry offspring and having less eggs to men’s sperm which meant
that they could be choosy with which men they mated with.
As a result, men would have been
more successful surviving but women were essential for reproduction. Therefore both
men and women needed each other to increase their own chances of surviving and
reproducing. In such circumstances, if women had wanted to discard one man for
another or try to go it alone they would have been in serious trouble.
While sex roles have a biological
basis, the world they emerged from has changed in such a way that men’s role as
provider has been taken for granted.
In the modern world resources are
far more abundant and most jobs available are not as physically demanding as
they once were.
Advances in technology and
healthcare have also made the world a less risky place at least in the West
which has led to a change in attitude towards the role of men as providers.
In a famine, the man who provides
food is a hero but when food is plentiful the man who provides it is a delivery
boy.
As well, women can now choose to
work full time, part time or be completely supported by a man as they no longer
rely exclusively on men to earn money for them.
Moreover, governments willingly
provide mothers with welfare payments if there is no man around. Women no
longer rely on men for survival to the extent they once did but men still rely
on women for reproduction.
Man’s role as provider is also
viewed at the expense of their role as father as men are defined more by their
absence working rather than their presence within families.
It is often said that traditionally
men went out to work while women raised the children which places mothers inside
the family and fathers outside of it.
Parenting and mothering have become
almost interchangeable and there isn’t much exploration into the relationship
fathers have with their children that is distinct from the mother’s.
This attitude is evident in the
family courts as judges typically award custody of children to mothers after a
divorce in the assumption they are maintaining the family unit with the only
difference being the father no longer living in the home.
If a man only needs to provide,
what does it matter if he doesn’t see his own children? Of course, if men only
needed to be providers for women and children then fatherlessness wouldn’t have
all the negative consequences we see in our societies.
A mentality of ‘provider as servant’ has developed in Western countries with men’s contributions been seen primarily as materialistic and directed towards their masters – women.
Servants have to prove their worth by
having somebody to work for whereas masters are able to use servants to do jobs
they don’t want to do.
In a similar fashion, men are
expected to do all the jobs women don’t want to do and be grateful for women
for giving them attention or be discarded for a better option.
Men are also expected to
potentially sacrifice their life to protect random women if they are in danger.
It doesn’t matter what or how much women demand, men are ‘real men’ if meet
their every desire.
Young men, in particular, are
expected to ‘prove themselves’ to young women to get their appreciation, but
this ignores the fact that young women have such power over men because they
are offering something in return: their youth and beauty.
Feminism encouraged women to make
increasing demands of men and mainstream conservatives still expect men to meet
their traditional obligations regardless of this.
Many men have a servant mentality
because they think that they are worthless unless they have a woman for whom
they are working for and being chivalrous. As Bernard Chapin has put it, “when
a woman has a need, a man must accede.”
The solution is neither to dismiss
sex roles entirely nor simply return to the roles that were functional in the
past without taking into account the current environment we live in.
Instead we need to acknowledge sex
differences but challenge the perceptions that have developed from them.
The real reason men provided
resources for women was not to justify their own existence to the superior
female sex but because women were unable to do so themselves.
Since these burdens have been
partly lifted by technology, men shouldn’t place their value solely on seeking
female approval.
It wasn’t a man’s primary
responsibility to provide resources for women but to provide for his children. Women were provided for if
they provided something in return.
The true role of men in society is to
provide something that women cannot
provide themselves.
This originally included resources
but more importantly it was men’s own masculinity. Women may now have more
independence but they can’t provide masculine strengths to complement their
feminine weaknesses (and vice versa for men).
They cannot be fathers to their
children and they cannot bring a masculine viewpoint to a situation. This means
that however societies develop technologically men always have something to
contribute to them.
If men are aware of this they can
avoid having a servant mentality and instead adopt a ‘provider as master’
mentality.
This mentality comes from the
knowledge that men have far more worth than whether they are capable of meeting
female demands.
It does not mean wanting to rule
over women but thinking like a master rather than a servant. Much like a doctor
or a teacher a master in a relationship provides for the other person something
they cannot obtain themselves and so can make demands for his service.
A master can feel worthy in himself
and not be defined by serving others. A master does not view a woman as a
superior who he must placate and so can make judgements about them without
fearing rejection.
A master can therefore defend
himself knowing he has worth and not fall apart when he is shamed for not
wanting to be a servant.
If more men thought this way they
would be less likely to simply accept the unreasonable behaviour of women and
we could make changes to society that would make MGTOW less of a viable option.
Although MGTOW could be viewed as rejecting marriage and children I believe it
is primarily to reject the ‘provider as servant mentality’ I have laid out.
Welcome to the Male Defender MOLON LABE podcast. Today we’re discussing the APA’s War on Men.
Here’s there statement on their changes. It’s titled, “APA issues first-ever guidelines for practice with men and boys.”
Getting that message out to men—that they’re adaptable, emotional and capable of engaging fully outside of rigid norms—is what the new guidelines are designed to do. And if psychologists can focus on supporting men in breaking free of masculinity rules that don’t help them, the effects could spread beyond just mental health for men, McDermott says. “If we can change men,” he says, “we can change the world.”
I don’t want to be changed. I’m a proud man who wants to save Western Civilization and I know you are too.
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